Hello everyone, I need some advice. Two and a half years ago, I entered into an arranged marriage, and since then, I've been facing the issue of a sexless marriage. I'm unsure if this is normal and have no one to ask.
In the first three months, we didn't have sex. I thought I needed to be more understanding and give my wife time since we had just moved to another country. However, even after two and a half years, the situation hasn't improved. After three months and several arguments, my wife agreed to have sex, but now we only do so 2-3 times a month, and that's usually after I push for it or we have a fight. We've never experienced a honeymoon phase or mutual desire for sex, and we only ever have one round. Her vagina is always dry, so we have to use lube.
During these two years, we've traveled and enjoyed each other's company, so I don't think communication is the issue. I believe she simply doesn't have the desire for sex. When I bring it up, she says she's tired, which I understand, but she finds time for social media. What about weekends or holidays? Is she always tired? Even when I return home after being away for 2-3 weeks, she's not interested in sex.
This situation consumes my thoughts, and I find myself watching porn and masturbating every night, worried that I might end up having an affair. I've had numerous discussions with my wife, but they always lead to arguments. She believes this is normal and that I'm the one with an excessive need for sex.
For context, she doesn't like masturbating, has never watched porn, and never gets wet without lube.
Am I overreacting? Is she asexual, or is this common?