I’ve been in therapy consistently for the last 4 years. I first started when I couldn’t handle my anxiety and have since entered into a sort of “maintenance phase.”
In January I ended a professional role and had a lot of regret, guilt and big emotions surrounding my decision. My previous (now ex) therapist, was with me as I dealt with that. They were also with me when I got my new role and finally felt like things were coming together. However, once I started my new role I had a lot of adjustments, changes and unexpected shifts happen that caused even more regret and big emotions. My previous therapist was with me during this time as well (end of Jan-beginning of Feb).
Since then it’s been hard to schedule appointments because my work has just been kicking off and I’ve been trying to find a new routine. I’m happy to say that since my last session (end of Jan-beginning of Feb), I’ve found my place at work and feel proud of myself for the hard decisions I made to get here.
That all said, I had one therapy session booked after the session at the end of Jan-beginning of Feb and ended up having to cancel it due to a work commitment. However, prior to this I likely only cancelled once before and that’s after a year or so of seeing this therapist. I also cancelled well over 48 hours in advance both times.
After that cancellation, it was hard to find time to book an appointment. Cut to this week (end of May), I finally feel settled and able to make an appointment. I sent in requests for now through August (all done via an app) and check back a couple days later and they’ve disappeared. I figured it was an error. So, I went back on after talking with a friend about it and my want to get back into therapy and see an open appointment for this week. I excitedly book it, but within a half hour or so I receive a message. It states the following:
“HI, I think I have taken you as far as I can and at this time I recommend working with a new provider. Customer service can assist with this. I would also recommend working with (insert two large orgs near me)…outside of this app. Take care!”
Now, immediately I felt sick. I’m an anxious person and I couldn’t help but wonder why’d she say so little about the real “why” to an anxious overthinker she’s known for a decent chunk of time. To make matters worse, you can’t message your provider and customer service cannot either, so I have now way of getting “clarity.”
So, be honest (and kind please💛), is this normal? Does it seem abrupt and rude? Is it because I had trouble scheduling of late? She knew the circumstances, so it just leaves me confused.
My first ever breakup by a therapist. I quite like it to be the other way around…