I do not know what this is supposed to be an observation post or a question. But just wanted to post this out there and know what you think.
Me M(26) only recently realized how emotionally detached I am when I made a female friend.
So I have not had a female friend (apart from coworkers) who likes to hang out with me outside office.
Recently made a female friend (31, someone outside office, and finally got to know how it is like having a female friend in general)
And I could not just help but notice how much more caring, kind she is.
That’s not to say I’m not the same. I’m an emotional person I know that for sure. But I feel like I have bottled up my emotions so much now (mostly because according to me no one wants to bother hearing me out and because my guy friends don’t bother speaking about emotions) that now I feel emotionless.
Like the other day we both were sitting at a restaurant and we see this small little groomed dog running about alone almost seeming lost.
We saw this a couple of times and at first we thought the dog was just off-leash. But the second time around we saw it we thought maybe it was lost.
Now my female friend told this out aloud and she was the one who showed me the dog in the first place. And the then she started expressing how the poor dog might be lost and how scared the dog might be.
Me on the other hand, did acknowledge the same, but honestly inside, I was kind of like. ‘Oh the dog is lost.’ I mean like that’s it.
I also think it’s important to state that I live in India where most Indians have what is called an ‘Chalta hai’ attitude where pretty much whatever happens we just move on. Don’t care about the situation as people are so busy.
I hope I do not succumb to this attitude and atleast try to take steps to open up. But to whom and how? No one really seems to care or bother.
Therapy is always there. But I don’t think that’s the only situation.