I sometimes do things in an "unusual way". It's not even something I do consciously, it's just natural, when something feels comfortable in a way then I just do it without thinking twice.
For instance I don't hold my pen or fork like "everyone". When I was a child, one of my teacher even made me stay after classes to try to correct it and like, why ? My writing had always been good, so WHY ? And I still get questions about it.
I often get questions about how I sit in MY parent's house, where I live. And not by them, they fully understand me and do not care. Like I want to sit cross-legged on a chair at my parents home because it's comfortable, what's wrong with that ? (OBVIOUSLY I'm sitting "normally" in other places)
One day, another teacher called me out in front of the whole class cause I was holding my badminton racket "in a wrong way and was the only one to do it". My index was just up against the racket handle and it wasn't messing with the way I was playing (objectively good) so again why ?
I also hold my phone like this since I was old enough to have one and same, got questions about it.
One of my friends recently told me I was weird because I sometimes make little moves to turn the wheel instead of turning it "in one go" when I'm parking my car. Is it dangerous ? Absolutely not, but they said it was just weird.
And these are just a few examples. It always bothering me like, if it's not dangerous or bothering you, why do you care so much about the way I do thing ? It's so weird to me because I'd never care about how other people hold things or else. It's just overwhelming sometimes how people care so much about things who are not a real problem. I'm a bit lost about all of this
Both. People are annoying. Everybody loves to throw out criticism. Exhibit A, I am doing it right now. You are also “being” sensitive. I don’t like the phrasing of that though. You are sensitive to criticism, at least the death-by-a-thousand-paper-cuts kind of criticism. Lots of low impact criticism accumulates. It’s helpful to be aware of, so that when someone has some low grade nonsense to throw your way, you can have whatever response you feel like suits you best better prepared. Want to be sassy? Have some zingers ready. Want to just let it go? Have a little mantra that settles you. You could also pretend to engage with them in a meaningful way and then pretend to be carried away by ants, slowly taking small baby steps backwards away from them.