Hi all hope you are well. I (20M) and close friend who we will call Jay 19M) have been friends since 9th grade. He comes out of a well off but very dysfunctional family especially his father who’s a narcissistic drunk and is extremely unreasonable and aggressive as of late with threats of kicking him out the house.
Only reason I even know that is because Jay comes to tell me about every conflict him and his father have. I’ve always been the friend that listens to others problems especially Jay’s for so long in highschool but now I have lots of responsibilities like attending college and doing assignments, worrying about my own personal well-being and health etc. We play video games a lot together and as much as I appreciate him the recent venting pf his has become really draining…
I get that his situation is bad and I’ve now tried recommending he get out the house more away from them and be there for him. I suggested we go hike , watch a movie, go to a game store of whatever and he refuses everytime and comes up with a lot of excuses.
Today it got bad and reached a point of the mention of him “ending it all” now I can’t help but worry but my plate is really stacked at the moment and already dealing with really bad stress and depression of my own that’s affecting my sleep and eating habits in my day to day and now that piled on top of all this isn’t helping.
I try my best to be a good friend but it’s getting exhausting trying to support both of us. I don’t want to bring it up to him because I’m scared it could worsen the situation .