I just found out my husband has cheated on me since I can't please him due to my surgeries. It was his fault we got pregnant without a doctors supervision monitoring my health. I never knew I was pregnant until it was too late. Should I sue him for emotional damage, physical harm to my body, and my mental health? I need counseling so bad, but I'm afraid he'd go to jail. Should I just keep it in therapy? I can always delete this account. I just wanted to hear different points of view. I swear I just want to d!3 than go file paperwork. I wished I knew this wasn't normal. I'm so fucking lost 😞 . I know people are asking why didn't I speak up? It's cause I thought this was normal in any relationship.
I don't know why this post was locked but thank you to that one mom that want to give me a hug. I desperately need it.😭😭😭.
TO EVERYONE ASKING DID I CONSENT? HOW CAN I IF I'M HEAVILY SEDATED ON SLEEPING MEDS? ….. SOME OF YOU ARE THE REASON I DIDN'T SEEK HELP BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE JUDGED ABOUT LETTING HIM DO THIS TO ME FOR YEARS.
I SAID SUE BECAUSE IF I WANT TO HAVE A FAMILY WITH ANOTHER MAN I WOULD HAVE TO BE ARTIFICIALLY INSIMINATED. THAT COST MONEY I WOULD NEVER HAVE.
I TRULY THOUGHT ALL WIVES DID THIS IN THEIR MARRIAGE SO THEIR HUSBAND CAN STILL BE PLEASED.
I GREW UP IN RELIGIOUS HOUSEHOLD THAT NEVER HUGGED, NEVER SAID I LOVE YOU, NEVER DISCUSSED SEX NOR RELATIONSHIP ADVICE…
I'VE HAD TO LEARN EVERYTHING FIRST HAND. Again, I was 19 yrs old.
Bro had been R*ping you in your sleep… Fucking send that POS to jail he ain’t your husband, nae respect for you at all, an argument is fair and excusable but repetitive unconscious sex without consent causing you pain and suffering and unknowingly being pregnant! Jesus woman, get em jailed and sued!
Your husband is a rapist; he *should* be in prison.
Thats 🍇 while also knowingly jeopardizes your health! You should leave him and take legal action. This is really horrible and you deserve better. ❤️
Lady, you’re being abused and have sustained permanent health damage as a result.
Whether to sue him or not is up to you. IMO going to court it’s not just about justice or vengeance, but also for preventing him from doing the same to others. Either way you should definitely file for a divorce and get away from him.
Please continue therapy and work towards ultimately finding a partner that treats you like a real human being – you deserve better!
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Please go to therapy, you need someone professional to talk about this. I feel sorry for you
You were r*ped in your sleep.. you have every right to push EVERYTHING on him/ against him.
He is a m*nster.. please take the correct action, have him sued/ jailed and save yourself..
Please report this to the police as fast as you can, what happened was not okay nor is it normal. Dude has no control over himself and doesn’t respect you and your words.
> I’m afraid he’d go to jail.
Are you kidding me? That is exactly where he belongs???
I’d go medieval on his ass if I were u.
Why on earth would you sue him? That is a criminal offence. Report him to the police for committing a crime.
Despite all my countless insecurities, I sometimes think about how decent of a partner I could be just for being a decent human being and communicating properly
This might be the first thread that I’ve audibly said “what the fuck” to and had to re-read multiple times.
What they’ve done is evil, they deserve the full extent of the law and you deserve appropriate compensation.
I am so sorry.
You need to find a safe place for yourself ASAP.
That is the first priority.
Move out, maybe seek protection if you think he will follow.
Talk to a trusted friend or professional to support you in this time.
Yes. Do.
Yes file a case against him
HE SHOULD BE IN PRISON.
SUE? MOTHERFUCKER CHARGE HIS SORRY ASS AND SEE HOW HE LIKES WAKING UP TO DAYSHAWN QUANTAVIOUS CLAPPING HIS BOOTY IN THE CELL BUNK
Ask for help. Seek justice. You deserve it <33 love you stay safe. I believe in you.
Yes who he is and his relationship to you is completely irrelevant. He is by definition a rapist and therefore a danger to society and should be charged and locked up. If he sees **his own wife** as just an object to stick his dick in whenever he feels like it, I imagine the “barrier to entry” for sex crimes against others is pretty low for him. He is a danger to society and also just a *fucking asshole*
A legitimate husband/partner respects your bodily autonomy because he loves you and honors you. You do not have either of those. You have someone who thinks of you as their possession. He has ZERO respect for you, and you deserve so much better.
This is rape.
Does he drug you? I’m wondering how he can do that without you waking up? either way, dump his ass.
This is a very weird question.
Firstly, your husband is 100% raping you. This is sexual abuse and assault.
GET OUT! RUNNN…
But next, the should you ‘sue him’ part is strange…?
You should leave him and take him to court and never look back.
THEN I guess you could ‘sue him’ for damages, etc., but like… love, you gotta get out first and put an end to this! Prioritize.
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He should absolutely be sent to jail so he can no longer hurt anyone else
He needs to go to jail.
sue him. he blatantly has no respect. or care for you and your body. you deserve so much more than that kind of treatment.
Sue him? First slap him and then keep him away from you. He cannot abuse your body like this.
This is someone who does not respect you. You shouldn’t be worried about him going to jail. I’m so sorry you are going through this. This is so messed up 🙁 please if you have someone to talk to or somewhere to go for a while please go. This is abuse 🙁 do you have any children at all together?