This morning my sister called me and told me this. I cried, then eventually snapped as she sounded like a robot repeating to me “it’s a medical treatment, my body my choice, I’m doing this because no one likes me, the family bully’s me”, constant victimization which she’s done her entire life. I got mad and yelled at her, “when are you gonna stop playing the victim and realize you are the problem.” Maybe I shouldn’t have said that. It just built up.
She just stayed with me last weekend to be here for our grandma’s 85th birthday. The entire time she talks shit about our whole family, and politics. Making up ridiculous lies that I know are false, judging my aunt for her clothes, accusing of everyone being passive aggressive, calling everyone narcissistic. Trying to convince me our mom is autistic or schizophrenic. She got in a huge fight with my mom in front of my wife and I before we took her to the airport. My mom was crying at the end because she really tries her best to give her love, we all do, but it’s never enough for her. We don’t understand what she wants. It’s like she needs us to fight.
Later when she got back home she left me some voicemails saying she hopes our mom dies, and that it would make her life easier. It hurts me so much she said that because I have a wonderful relationship with our mom. She’s one of the sweetest people I know on this earth. I just don’t get it.
Anyways today she is telling me she is approved for a assisted death in Oregon. I don’t know if she is even telling the truth because she’s not a state citizen of Oregon and she doesn’t have a terminal illness that will kill her in 6 months. She said she’s found a way to work around these requirements. Can she actually do this? I love my sister very much even though she’s physically abused me in the past and continues to verbally abuse me and the rest of my family. I know it’s hard living her life, I believe she has BPD, and I feel bad. I’m just exhausted.