I've (F/24) been dating a guy (M/29) for 3 months now, exclusively 1 month, and he told me about his hypochondria at the beginning, but he said it's been "fixed" about 90% and it's not that big of a problem. Now, after a few months, it's gotten worse and worse (one problem every week, one gets solved and another one comes) and it's starting to make me think that it's something to do with me.
He will cancel or postpone plans because he doesn't feel well and needs to rest and relax. Which also makes me think being around me is more stressful then relaxing for him. It's the plans being cancelled and postponed that makes me feel super sad and doubtful if this can work between us. I don't know what to do, because I do like him.
At the same time he also deals with ADHD so planning in general is being postponed because he forgot something or needs to finish some leftover work. Like I said, all of this got worse with time. It makes me incredibly sad, because I don't know how to deal with that. I also have some mental problems, like anxiety, so I should be able to understand and support, but it's difficult, especially because I think I'm making it worse for him. He's in therapy and everything, says it himself that it's dumb and he knows it's not real, but yeah…I don't know what to do…