Reported a colleague for SA. Backfired & victimblamed by the workplace.

Reported a colleague for SA – backfired & victimblamed by the workplace.

What could I do about this? 😢

Long story short I reported a colleague for SA to my employer. I’m female.

I said SA – he said it was consensual.

Apparently the texts I sent after the incident that read: “That was not ok, I said no and removed your hands, and you kept persisting.” – wasn’t enough proof that SA took place. They said I could’ve simply changed my mind.

The workplace investigators kept giving vague statements such as “He has given us a detailed description of the incident and materials.”
When I asked which materials, they never answered.

The workplace investigators claimed I replied in text message in a way that I did NOT reply. I’m wondering if he sent false texts to them as proof.

During the interviews I cried and told them everything. I even got a stress rash talking to them about it. It was so humiliating crying during Zoom meetings with them.

Despite this – they took his party.

They never informed me that the information I was giving during the interviews would later be presented to him, HR, my boss and the chief of the workplace. They just took everything I said in full intimate detail on how he had SA:ed me and how i felt etc and copy-pasted it on a PowerPoint in front of everybody.

His story was that I had been the instigator and all of that. That I had said some segsual things etc and how much I wanted to sleep with him.

Then they said “INAPPRORIATE BEHAVIOR OF BOTH THE ACCUSED AND THE ACCUSER.”

Then me and the unionworker questioned their reasoning. How could they side with him? And they seriously said “We cannot see proof of consent but we do see indications of a lack of force.” I said “if it wasn’t with force then surely it was consensual?” And she said “We kind of mean that … maybe more of an active resistance” – I literally texted him and kept repeating I said no and removed his hands off of me. And fight or flight ? Hello? The workplace investigator even said “His story says consent and that they were touching on each other!” – this was SOOOO humiliating!!! We were 7 people in this meeting!! I had to argue for my trauma being real.

Then at the end of the investigation they sent my emails to HR. I said I would appreciate if you didn’t send things to HR without my consent and they informed me “we have had an agreement that your emails to us be further sent to HR” – without my knowledge or consent.

They made up a summary, a rapport, and they gave both me and him critique for inappropriate behavior at the workplace. Despite me saying it wasn’t consensual and they’re refusing to give me any information on what I did that there’s proof of.

I’ve felt like my integrity was ripped away when he did not respect my body. And now after reporting to the workplace, everything being thrown up on a PowerPoint – without my consent – and judgmental and victim blaming statements thrown at me afterwards – was so, so, SO humiliating and degrading. And now it’s even in a rapport.

This was a couple of days ago and I have had tremendous anxiety. I’ve been crying and I feel like I’ve just been retrauamtized.

What could I possibly do to get some justice out of this? I know a police report should be done towards him but I felt like that was scary and wanted to see where a workplace report went in the first place.

Any ideas on what I could do at this point? They can’t just treat people this way.