Why do I hate it when people tell me what to do?

My parents, I love them, but they have this habit of giving me advice every single time. I would just, for example, tell them my day, and they can’t just listen. They need to give me advice after i finish telling them about it. My sibling which is just a couple of years older than me acts as if that gap is much larger, tells me what to do all the time eventhough wasn’t asked for ( the guru of the family).

It’s not just them, at work, I couldn’t stand it when my boss would constantly tell me what to do, I know its their job but sometimes it wasn’t even necessary, it could be things I was about to do, or some obvious things that anyone would know how to do it

I dont know if this is the right subreddit, but I hate it so much that sometimes I think maybe it’s a trauma response that I don’t know of. Maybe it’s a mental illness.

I see other coworkers not reacting to being bossed around ( even by other coworkers), they would just laugh around or say “sure, of course” and go do it. I wish i was like that

It has actually caused me some problems at work, it’s affecting my life and I wish to not be this much affected by it

I tell my family that I hate it, I ask them politely to not give me advice when I didn’t ask for it but they just can’t listen to me and then they get surprised that I get irritated by it

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